Courtship: the art of wooing someone you like. It is the period of time where both of you decide if you would either like to engage in a committed relationship or not. It goes a little deeper to say that the blessing of parents is highly regarded during this time. If I have to think of the relationship I had without my parents blessing… let’s just say it’s important. Nowadays, this part seems to be fast forwarded and people just fall into relationships without ever being asked and without any real blessing. Both people just assume that because we have been hanging out and kicking it for a while that automatically we can call dibs on each other.
Dating: Seriously, do people go on dates anymore? (I’m not talking about the couple that have been together since birth and who wants to get out of the house for date night). I am talking about that first date. When someone you like takes you out on a date to a fancy restaurant (The Drive-thru at KFC unfortunately does not qualify.) If a fancy restaurant does not fit the budget, a nice home cooked meal will also suffice - there is no need to break the bank. They will pick you up at your house where they actually get out of the car (no texts saying “I’m outside”) and meet you at your front door. They will tell you that you look beautiful and open the car door for you as you get in. It’s what every girl would like, right? Then sugar honey, instigate. Guys won’t mind spending money if it is worth it. So set your standards and if their idea of a first date is hanging out in front of the club with his crew – Run! Sweet cheeks, Run!
On the topic of standards – which is another ball game altogether – I think that we ladies have allowed guys to get away with the bare minimum. A guy will try his luck if he sees you as a potential love interest, the easiest way he can. If he gets lucky easily, chances are that the “Situationship” will be short-lived because he affiliated no effort with it. But if a guy has to work a bit for something, his interest is peaked and if he really wants it – HE WILL WORK FOR IT. Contrary to popular belief, guys are not lazy. [at first] :-P |
I’ll leave you sugarplums with this: Allow yourself to really make an effort to get to know someone. It won’t hurt to be a little romantic every now and then. Learn to do things for the right reasons and not because everyone else is doing it. The best relationships, I think, should be based on a solid foundation – respect, honesty and communication. (......Oh, and opening the door for her is also a plus!)
ML,